Yeah, it's a little harsh to say that a girl who stays with a man who beats her up deserves the abuse. There are always circumstances which we, as non-abused people, wouldn't understand because the victim is always convinced of something else by the abuser. Levres was right - most of the time, these assholes will screw up a girl's self-esteem. A girl whom I work with went out with this kid who used to tell her that he was "the only person would could love her," and that she "wouldn't be able to find anyone if she ever left him." He never went so far as to hit her, but still. He used to tell her she couldn't go hang out with her friends and she listened. After she finally broke up with him (for another guy, but at least she got away) he stalked her and new Mr. Right for days. She went to go get some things of hers from his house and found pictures of her new boyfriend on his wall with darts and knives in them. Talk about crazy. And she still says that he treated her good. You can't convince her of otherwise. She had just moved here and had no friends and he was really nice to her at first, so of course she went along with his every whim. It's sickening.
But there definitely ought to be a law similar to that child abuse thing, where a person convicted of hitting his woman has to introduce himself to all the people in his neighborhood as such if he moves somewhere else. That way if he gets a new woman, the people in the neighborhood will know to look for signs of abuse. There also ought to be a law that lets you beat the shit out of known abusers if you see them in the street. Fuckers.
Good day, all.