Stop trying to plan out your relationship. You will only lead yourself to disappointment with that system of doing things. There is no point in looking to the future for things that are so uncertain.

There are some things you should probably plan. If you decide to buy a car, you should figure out what car you're getting. If you think you're going to get a car in 6 months, you don't look at individual cars now. You look at the types of cars, the makes, the models.. you dont look at the specific individual car on the lot. Same goes for moving, picking a job, etc.. making general plans based on possible events.. how actively you do it is up to how much time you want to put into it. Also, a big mistake is to not respond to mutual feelings for the reason that someone is moving away. That is like planning the length of your relationship.. if you end up loving her that much, and she loves you, she wont go or you will go with her. Just let the dice fall where they may, stop thinking about it.

I am currently putting all my available focus on work.. I am at a critical point at work, and unfortunatly it is more than some 'important project', it greatly affects my life and that sucks really, because I really don't want to be dealing with the negative outcome if thats how things end up...

The reason I am talking about this is because its partly why insult isnt redone yet, and also because it deals with another mistake, and that is walking with blinders on. My thoughts are so absorbed with the problem at hand that I zone out to the rest of life.. it is something I do a lot.. I don't look around.

I am not very good at quickly scanning someone when I walk by them. I look too close to me I guess, so its hard to see both body + face. Just fun to see the whole thing really, and I think it seems less freaky to end up making eye contact.

At this point in my ramblings, I would like to introduce a game and an experiment to you.

Experiment #2002-01
Instructions: While walking through a crowded place, make eye contact with a person, then scan their body down to their feet and lock them there. Note the reaction. Do the same thing to another person, scan their body down, and then up again. Note this reaction. Next, scan a new person from their feet and finish with eye contact and note the response. Try each method with both male and female subjects.

Game #2002-01
Players: 2

Equipment: Pistol (.22 caliber), Air-Pistol (equiped with BBs or darts, pump action recommended) or Air Rifle (pump action recommended for pellets); Target (photograph, fruit on friend's head, pre-printed target)

Instructions: Agree on a bullseye. Size of bullseye may vary between 1cm and 15cm. Agree on a shooting distance between 3m and 6m. Additional distance will greatly increase your odds of shooting the head of the friend with the fruit so carefully balanced. Make alternative shots until both players have marked the target. The winner is the person closest to the bulleye. The loser must shoot himself in the foot with the weapon.